Being victimized is not an emotional place for happiness and
doesn’t offer room for mental growth. Getting away from the abuser is like a bird being
released from its cage. After gaining a taste of freedom, there’s no going back.
How can you help young adults become aware of violence in dating?
The interviews below of people all ages were conducted by the author to get their
insight on violence in dating.
Lililiketheflower, the artist from Georgia
What are your thoughts on Young Adults Dating-N-Violence?
Lililiketheflower: It starts in your teen years when you’re dating. When you go into
dating and start off in an abusive and toxic situation, you get used to it. You begin
to think that’s how it’s supposed to be. You think it’s the norm and you accept that
feeling . . . that it’s what you deserve. It gets really hard to pull yourself away from it
all, the longer you stay in there.
Were you ever caught up in it [toxic environment]?
L: I was young and grew up in an abusive household. So that was just kinda where
it all started. It becomes the norm and you don’t realize what a healthy relationship
is supposed to look like. And when you’re in an unhealthy relationship, it’s hard to
notice that it’s not real love. It’s simply just not real!
Do you think growing up in an abusive environment affected your adult lifestyle?
L: Yes, you carry that until you decide that’s enough. I don’t want this anymore, and
I deserve better. You realize that you’re worth much more. It’s all about self-love and
self-worth. Until then, you’re going to allow people to treat you as bad as you treat
yourself. So when you treat yourself better, you’re not gonna allow people to treat
you badly anymore.
How has it been for you in the dating arena?
L: It was toxic for a long time. I stayed in that toxic environment for five years. I was
seventeen years old and ended it when I was twenty-two years old. I’m still having a
hard time. Yes, a very hard time healing and really growing from that. Not allowing
my past to affect my current relationships and the ability to move forward. Trauma,
that’s still a blockage and causing me to not fully be able to embrace who I have, now.
How did you end it?
L: I just didn’t have a choice. I had to walk away from it. I realized that I didn’t love
myself by staying in the midst of toxicity. And that if I chose to stay, I was neglecting
my health. So, that’s why I knew I had to leave!
The above article you just read is . . .
a piece from my activity guide creation, “Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall . . . Where Does My Self-Love Fall.” There is a reason why I selected to share this particular covered article. February is “Teen Dating Violence Awareness” Month.” Did you know that?
And on Friday, February 14, 2020, I will be among the many vendors attending the “Women In Action Forum.” Which will be held at the River Club in Suwanee, GA, sponsored by the leadership for “Partnership Against Dating Violence.” Seemingly, my product will fit right in!
(Quoted from the website of PADV) =
One of the most exciting features of the Women In Action Forum is its marketplace comprised of a wide range of vendors, such as jewelry, purse, and essential oil retailers. Vendors showcase their products and services to over a hundred guests in attendance
Need more info on this event, please visit their website.