Self loves you why can’t you love “the self?”
I beg you to stop and appreciate the inner self! That little girl/boy inside you has been with you since birth. She/He knows you very well. Remembering, your falls, your heartbreaks, and the pain endured. So please, please do not beat up, abuse, or punish “self “ – with harsh words about self, for example, the most common: 1) Why wasn’t I good enough? Or, 2) What is wrong with me she/he can’t love me? In other words, do not blame yourself for others’ insecurities. True, I don’t know you personally; but, I know there is beauty that lives inside each of us.
Those people who left your life. They were all part of the brokenness of this society. Perhaps, there was never a true and real connection. That girlfriend/boyfriend you thought was serious – she/he wasn’t so serious after all; and the person you believed to be a best friend – she/he was never a best friend. Allow me to briefly remind you: (1) everyone is not a best friend and (2) the meaning of best friend is as follows: a best friend is someone who is there through thick and thin; ups and downs; who listens and understands you; a person who always has your interest at heart; who values you above all others a rarity when it comes to a friendship; and-so-on, and so-on.
Every day, we learn new lessons. I’ve learned through my journey people come into our lives for a reason or a season. We should never try to make them fit for eternity. The possibility of that was not intended. When we do that is why we feel the hurt, the pain, and such brokenness of self. Our Creator sent us those people to develop us. Perhaps, they did you a favor by leaving. You may have outgrown that connection, and that’s good. ‘Cause it’s time for you to shine through your strengths, beauty, and character.
At one point I have been in a state just like you. Nowadays, I’m still continuing with my “self-talk.” And begging self to forgive me for the self-destruction. It took a lot of focus, time, and energy to work on the self; it is why I share my knowledge. I believe working on the self is an ongoing process. I say to each of you, “You are the best gift you can ever gift “the self”. Keep shining and growing. You are precious and beautiful”
By the way, do check out my activity guide, Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall . . . Where Does My Self Love Fall?
Photos courtesy of Dakota Corbin = Front Cover / Content Pixie = Inside